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Sexual assault is an epidemic in America. Per Rape & Incest National Network (RAINN [2]), every 68 seconds an American is sexually assaulted, and every nine minutes, that victim is a child. That should get your attention! It’s horrifying. It’s evil.
For me, this issue is personal. As a parent of a young man affected by developmental and intellectual disabilities, I know my son is extremely vulnerable. I wanted to learn more. I wanted to protect him. And what I learned from my research shook me to my core.
Per National Public Radio (NPR), individuals affected by intellectual disabilities are sexually assaulted at 7 times the rate of people without disabilities. Additionally, per the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape, more than 90 percent of individuals affected by developmental disabilities will experience sexual abuse in their lifetime, and 49 percent will experience 10 or more abusive incidents.
For individuals like my son, the statistics paint a grim picture. It’s not a matter of “if” for him. It’s a matter of “when.” It’s not one child every nine minutes. It’s much worse. It’s much more frequent. Keep in mind that while my son is physically an adult, mentally, he will always be a child.
To adequately consider the scope of this issue, consider that there were approximately 8.4 million people affected by an intellectual or developmental disability in the United States in 2020. I believe Jesus wants these individuals to know Him and to know He loves them.
[3]Like many individuals affected by these types of disabilities, my son is compliant. He is dependent on caregivers and others who provide support, and he can be easily taken advantage of by a perpetrator. For individuals like my son, the church must not ignore this reality.
How can the church say, “Everyone is welcome,” but not put safeguards in place to protect the vulnerable? How can the church say, “Jesus loves you,” but not put policies and procedures in place to protect the vulnerable? If a child or a vulnerable adult is abused in church, even though that person has been told they are loved, they may conclude in their own mind that God hates them. Abuse in the house of God is one of the vilest forms of evil.
Jesus said in Mark 9:42 (ESV), “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.”
Jesus is saying that a person would be better off dead than causing a child to sin.
Failure to protect the vulnerable in the church and the resulting abuse can easily drive these children away from Jesus. Saying we love them must be more than empty words. The words must be evidenced by action.
My son gets excited when he goes to church. He has men who care for him, protect him and share the Gospel with him. Policies and procedures are put in place to protect him. They say they love him; their actions prove they do. There is consistency. There is protection. He can experience the love of Jesus for himself in the ways he is able.
I am asking churches to examine their policies and procedures and prioritize protecting the vulnerable by developing and maintaining them.
Love must be backed up by action. Jesus made no empty promises. Neither should His church.
Let’s love well! Let’s prove our love in our actions! Amen!